“What does not heal, haunts.”
“You cannot heal what you cannot feel.”
“Addiction is a response to human pain.”
“Pain is the price we pay for being human.”
“To be truly human is to bear the unbearable.”
“The question is not why the addiction, but why the pain.”
“The attempt to escape from pain, is what creates more pain.”
“Health is not the absence of disease. It’s the absence of fear.”
“Nothing human is alien to me, including the capacity for cruelty.”
“We don’t need to love ourselves. We just need to stop hating ourselves.”
“Attachment is not the enemy of authenticity. It’s the foundation of it.”
“Stress is not the event or the situation; it’s the meaning we give to that situation.”
“We are never angry because of what others say or do. It is our thinking that makes us angry.”
“Everything you want to know about yourself, is reflected in your relationship with your children.”
“Trauma is not what happens to you. Trauma is what happens inside you as a result of what happens to you.”
“The belief that we can be intolerant of some aspects of ourselves, while still being tolerant of others, is an illusion.”
“When the culture doesn’t work for us, we think there’s something wrong with us, when in fact there’s something wrong with the culture.”
“It is impossible to understand addiction without asking what relief the addict finds, or hopes to find, in the drug or the addictive behaviour.”
“The real question is not why some people develop addictions or mental illness, but why don’t more people given the prevalence of trauma and abuse?”
“Many people believe that acknowledging their emotions will make them out of control, when in fact it’s the inability to recognize and express emotions that drives them out of control.”